Showing posts with label Solution. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Solution. Show all posts

Saturday, June 23, 2012

The Daily Solution

Saturday, June 16, 2012

The Daily Solution

Effective problem-solvers learn behaviors that are necessary for solving problems.

They also learn what is detrimental to that process. 

Following is a list of behaviors to embrace if you want to become an effective, healthy, well-intentioned problem-solver. 

While some of these suggestions are "no-brainers" for some of us, I know that we each struggle with at least one.  Let's get to work solving that problem!

  1. Give up the habit of waiting. – The way you spend your time defines who you are.  You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when; you can only decide how you are going to live right now.  Trust me, a year from now you will wish you had started today.

  2. Give up the excuses. – Sooner or later you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have.  When you let go, forgive, and move on, you in no way change the past, you change the future.
     
  3. Give up trying to be perfect. – Sometimes we try to show the world that we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone.  But we can’t please everyone, and we shouldn’t try.  The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our love, our complex emotions – our authentic imperfections.  When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of perfect, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.  There is no need to put on a mask.  There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not.  You are perfectly imperfect just the way you are.
     
  4. Give up doing things you know are wrong. – Nothing is more damaging to you than doing something that you believe is wrong.  Your beliefs alone don’t help you grow and thrive, your behavior and actions do.  So always do what you know in your heart is right, for you.
     
  5. Give up feelings of entitlement. – Nobody owes you anything.  When you approach life with the false sense that you are owed things, you will naturally become less productive and constantly find yourself disappointed by reality.  When you are grateful for what you have, and see positive things as bonuses, versus owed entitlements, you will earn great successes gradually as you grow.

  6. Give up relationships that want you to be someone else. – The best kind of relationship is the one that makes you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself.  This includes romantic, business and friend relationships.
     
  7. Give up letting others decide what you can and can’t do. – In order to live your own authentic life, you have to follow YOUR inner GPS, not someone else's.  When others say, “You can’t do it!” or “That’s impossible,” don’t lose hope.  Just because THEY couldn’t doesn’t mean YOU can’t.
     
  8. Give up being a helpless victim. – Yes, it is unfortunate that sometimes bad things happen to the best of people.  Life can be unfair, unkind and unjust.  However, being stuck in a victim mentality does not nurture your ability to move onward and upward.  You’ve got to stand back up and take positive steps to heal and grow.
     
  9. Give up worrying about past failures. – Accept your past without regret, handle your presence with confidence, and face your future without fear.  You are today where your thoughts and actions have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and actions take you.
     
  10. Give up blaming everyone else. – Either you own your situation or it will own you.  Either you take responsibility for your life, or someone else will.  Blame is a scapegoat – it’s an easy way out of taking accountability for your own outcome.  It’s a lot easier to point the finger at someone or something else instead of looking within.  Blame is not constructive; it does not help you or anyone else – nobody wins in the blame game.  The amount of energy and stress it takes to place blame elsewhere takes away from your ability to move forward and find a real solution.
     
  11. Remember, the road you are traveling may be the more challenging one, but don’t lose hope.  Don’t listen to the doubters, don’t let setbacks keep you down, and most of all, don’t give up on yourself. It’s okay if you don’t know how much more you can handle.  It’s fine if you don’t know exactly what to do next.  Eventually you’ll let go of how things ‘should be,’ and start to see all the great possibilities in front of you. 
Source:  http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/06/04/10-things-you-must-give-up-to-be-successful/

Monday, June 11, 2012

The Daily Solution

This "Daily Solution" covers a lot of territory.  Enjoy!

50 Things Everyone Should Know How To Do

Self-reliance is a vital key to living a healthy, productive life.  To be self-reliant one must master a basic set of skills, more or less making them a jack of all trades.  Contrary to what you may have learned in school, a jack of all trades is far more equipped to deal with life than a specialized master of only one.

While not totally comprehensive, here is a list of 50 things everyone should know how to do.

1.  Build a Fire – Fire produces heat and light, two basic necessities for living.  At some point in your life this knowledge may be vital.
2.  Operate a Computer – Fundamental computer knowledge is essential these days.  Please, help those in need.
3.  Use Google Effectively – Google knows everything.  If you’re having trouble finding something with Google, it’s you that needs help.
4.  Perform CPR and the Heimlich Maneuver – Someday it may be your wife, husband, son or daughter that needs help.
5.  Drive a Manual Transmission Vehicle – There will come a time when you’ll be stuck without this knowledge.
6.  Do Basic Cooking – If you can’t cook your own steak and eggs, you probably aren’t going to make it.
7.  Tell a Story that Captivates People’s Attention – If you can’t captivate their attention, you should probably just save your breath.

8.  Win or Avoid a Fistfight – Either way, you win.
9.  Deliver Bad News – Somebody has got to do it.  Unfortunately, someday that person will be you.
10.  Change a Tire – Because tires have air in them, and things with air in them eventually pop.
11.  Handle a Job Interview – I promise, sweating yourself into a nervous panic won’t land you the job.
12.  Manage Time – Not doing so is called wasting time, which is okay sometimes, but not all the time.
13.  Speed Read – Sometimes you just need the basic gist, and you needed it 5 minutes ago. 
14.  Remember Names – Do you like when someone tries to get your attention by screaming “hey you”?
15.  Relocate Living Spaces – Relocating is always a little tougher than you originally imagined.
16.  Travel Light – Bring only the necessities.  It’s the cheaper, easier, smarter thing to do.
17.  Handle the Police – Because jail isn’t fun… and neither is Bubba.
18.  Give Driving Directions – Nobody likes driving around in circles.  Get this one right the first time.
19.  Perform Basic First Aid – You don’t have to be a doctor, or genius, to properly dress a wound.
20.  Swim – 71% of the Earth’s surface is covered by water.  Learning to swim might be a good idea. 
21.  Parallel Park – Parallel parking is a requirement on most standard driver’s license driving tests, yet so many people have no clue how to do it.  How could this be?
22.  Recognize Personal Alcohol Limits – Otherwise you may wind up like this charming fellow.
23.  Select Good Produce – Rotten fruits and vegetables can be an evil tease and an awful surprise.
24.  Handle a Hammer, Axe or Handsaw – Carpenters are not the only ones who need tools.  Everyone should have a basic understanding of basic hand tools.
25.  Make a Simple Budget – Being in debt is not fun.  A simple budget is the key.
26.  Speak at Least Two Common Languages – Only about 25% of the world’s population speaks English.  It would be nice if you could communicate with at least some of the remaining 75%.
27.  Do Push-Ups and Sit-Ups Properly – Improper push-ups and sit-ups do nothing but hurt your body and waste your time.
28.  Give a Compliment – It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give someone, and it’s free.
29.  Negotiate – The better deal is only a question or two away.
30.  Listen Carefully to Others – The more you listen and the less you talk, the more you will learn and the less you will miss.
31.  Recite Basic Geography – If you don’t know where anything is outside of your own little bubble, most people will assume (and they are probably correct) that you don’t know too much at all.
32.  Paint a Room – The true cost of painting is 90% labor.  For simple painting jobs it makes no sense to pay someone 9 times what it would cost you to do it yourself.
33.  Make a Short, Informative Public Speech – At the next company meeting if your boss asks you to explain what you’ve been working on over the last month, a short, clear, informative response is surely your best bet.  “Duhhh…” will not cut it.
34.  Smile for the Camera – People that absolutely refuse to smile for the camera suck!
35.  Flirt Without Looking Ridiculous – There is a fine line between successful flirting and utter disaster.  If you try too hard, you lose.  If you don’t try hard enough, you lose.
36. Take Useful Notes – Because useless notes are useless, and not taking notes is a recipe for failure.
37.  Be a Respectful House Guest – Otherwise you will be staying in a lot of hotels over the years.
38.  Make a Good First Impression – Aristotle once said, “well begun is half done.”
39.  Navigate with a Map and Compass – What happens when the GPS craps out and you’re in the middle of nowhere?
40.  Sew a Button onto Clothing – It sure is cheaper than buying a new shirt.
41.  Hook Up a Basic Home Theater System – This isn’t rocket science.  Paying someone to do this shows sheer laziness.
42.  Type – Learning to type could save you days worth of time over the course of your lifetime.
43.  Protect Personal Identity Information – Personal identity theft is not fun unless you are the thief.  Don’t be careless.
44.  Implement Basic Computer Security Best Practices – You don’t have to be a computer science major to understand the fundamentals of creating complex passwords and using firewalls.  Doing so will surely save you a lot of grief someday.
45.  Detect a Lie – People will lie to you.  It’s a sad fact of life.
46.  End a Date Politely Without Making Promises – There is no excuse for making promises you do not intend to keep.  There is also no reason why you should have to make a decision on the spot about someone you hardly know.
47.  Remove a Stain – Once again, it’s far cheaper than buying a new one.
48.  Keep a Clean House – A clean house is the foundation for a clean, organized lifestyle.
49.  Hold a Baby – Trust me, injuring a baby is not what you want to do.
50.  Jump Start a Car – It sure beats walking or paying for a tow truck.
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Monday, June 4, 2012

The Daily Solution

Learn from the mistakes of others. You won't live long enough to make them all yourself.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

The Daily Solution

In all your relationships, construct a "disagreement safety zone." 

Allow for alternate opinions and viewpoints from the people you love.  Accept that they will not always see life through your eyes, as well. 

This practice builds character, patience and the ability to actively listen to others.

Don't fear what you don't understand. 

Even if you agree to disagree with someone, you can enjoy a mutually-meaningful fellowship with him/her.

When we commit to loving people who disagree with us, three very important things happen:  we learn, we cultivate healthier relationships, and we SOLVE PROBLEMS!

(NOTE: there is a huge difference between disagreement and abuse.  Never let another person or group of people disrespect you by verbally, emotionally, or physically abusing you.  Always practice self-love.)

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

The Daily Solution (for new graduates)

My youngest son will graduate from high school next year.  So will his girlfriend. 

I want to offer them meaningful, real-life solutions for difficult situations they will undoubtedly encounter as they find their way in the world. 

This article (excerpted for brevity) was placed in my path this morning.  The author offers some great advice for young people.  The article is intended for a female audience, but is easily applicable to young men.

So, here is a whole list of solutions for today:

"Here's my best shot at dispensing words of wisdom that I wish someone had told me when I entered the workforce but I didn't know until later.

1. You're probably going to suck at first. That's how most things are until you master them. Malcolm Gladwell says it takes 10,000 hours. It will feel like 100,000. That's normal.

2. Acquaintances are not the same as friends. It's rare to make genuine friendships at work, no matter what the sitcoms and movies suggest. You might have one or two, but you're not there to be popular, you're there to show off your skills. If you make friends, that's icing.

3. Ignore snide remarks. "I have sweaters older than you" = A real thing I heard on the job as a twenty-something. I cried, but not at my desk. I was kind! I was smart! I was important! Some of your co-workers will look at you and see their misspent youth. Not your problem.They're just mad because they can't stay up all night and work like a boss all day like you can. This is something that you will also lose the ability to do, so enjoy life while you can stay up past 10 without yawning.

4. People are not quite right in their twenties. There's this whole bridge to adulthood thing that makes life a little unbearable. It is normal to not know who you are or what your Purpose In Life is. You will find it or it will find you.

5. Find a mentor or two. They don't have to be women, and they don't have to be alive. I have several mentors that have kept me sane and from being utterly broken by life on dozens of occasions. In my free time, when I'm not walking my dog or gardening, I hunt for mentors. They've been down the road you want to walk, they have a wealth of experience. In Annie Leibovitz' book, At Work, she writes about photography: "You learn as you work, and you certainly can ask for advice." That's true for everything.

6. Don't date in the office. What? I know. Hot. Right there. Where you spend all your waking hours. Down GIRL! (And by date, I mean whatever it is you think I mean by date.) Certainly, there are all kinds of excuses you can make to say why this is wrongheaded. I know a lot of couples who met at the office. Don't crap where you sleep. It rarely ends well.

7. Ask for what you want. Asking for a raise or a promotion is something that you should totally do. Lois Frankel gives great advice about this, as does Austin-based career coach Ann Daly. It's scary, but scared money don't make none. In other words, the worst that could happen is that your boss will say no to whatever you're asking for.

8. Try to forget 'What I Thought I'd Be Doing' and enjoy the ride. Aim to enjoy where you are. Everyone has to start somewhere.

9. Save Money. I used to have a really silly relationship with money, shaped by growing up without much. Interviewing wise people over the years has underscored for me the importance of having a stash saved in the event that I need to leave a toxic or untenable situation and regroup.

10. Win. I used to hate attention and I would unconsciously sabotage myself, thinking that if I won all the time, people would hate me for it. Specifically, "boys club" women and intimidated men. It turns out winning is sexy. It also makes you happy and confident, which gives your skin a healthy glow. Go for it."

Source:  http://bitchmagazine.org/post/lady-business-ten-things-that-would-have-been-good-to-know-at-and-after-graduation-advice-careers-feminism-economy

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The Daily Solution

Today's solution is:  do your best to abide by the "Golden Rule."

The Golden Rule is: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

There is a prayer on the Golden Rule, attributed to Eusebius of Caesarea, that would be worth saying once a day.

It includes the following lines, among others:

“May I gain no victory that harms me or my opponent.
May I reconcile friends who are mad at each other.
May I, insofar as I can, give all necessary help to my friends and to all who are in need.
May I never fail a friend in trouble.”

Source:  http://zenhabits.net/18-practical-tips-for-living-the-golden-rule/

Sunday, May 20, 2012

The Daily Solution

Don't be the one negative person in a group. 

Nobody likes that person, and the group will be better served if you keep your mouth shut.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The Daily Solution

Today's solution is:

LISTEN.

Stop talking. 

Just listen. 

Listening changes everything.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

The Daily Solution

What do problem-solvers think? 

Following are some thoughts from some great Solution-Masters:

Theodore Roosevelt:  "Have you got a problem? Do what you can where you are with what you've got."

James Thurber:  "It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers."

Harlan Cleveland:  "Leaders are problem solvers by talent and temperament, and by choice."

Voltaire:  "No problem can stand the assault of sustained thinking."

Felix Adler:  "To care for anyone else enough to make their problems one's own, is ever the beginning of one's real ethical development."

Betty Williams:  "There's no use talking about the problem unless you talk about the solution."

Monday, May 7, 2012

The Daily Solution

Source:  http://fakescience.tumblr.com/post/22595290533/great-scientists-pythagoras
Sometimes, solutions are simple...even obvious.

Today's "Daily Solution" is dedicated to all students who are cramming for finals, and can't wait for summer break.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

The Daily Solution

Bertrand Russell was a British philosopher, mathematician, historian, and social critic.  He remains one of the most intellectually diverse and influential thinkers in modern history.

From the third volume of The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell: 1944-1969 comes this remarkable micro-manifesto – a vision for responsibilities of a teacher (or any leader, for that matter), in which Russell touches on a number of recurring themes from pickings past – the purpose of education, the value of uncertainty, the importance of critical thinking, the gift of intelligent criticism, and more.

His "10 Commandments of Teaching" originally appeared in the December 16, 1951, issue of The New York Times Magazine.



Perhaps the essence of the Liberal outlook could be summed up in a new decalogue, not intended to replace the old one but only to supplement it. The Ten Commandments that, as a teacher, I should wish to promulgate, might be set forth as follows:
1. Do not feel absolutely certain of anything.
2. Do not think it worth while to proceed by concealing evidence, for the evidence is sure to come to light.
3. Never try to discourage thinking for you are sure to succeed.
4. When you meet with opposition, even if it should be from your (sp0use) or your children, endeavor to overcome it by argument and not by authority, for a victory dependent upon authority is unreal and illusory.
5. Have no respect for the authority of others, for there are always contrary authorities to be found.
6. Do not use power to suppress opinions you think pernicious, for if you do the opinions will suppress you.
7. Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.
8. Find more pleasure in intelligent dissent than in passive agreement, for, if you value intelligence as you should, the former implies a deeper agreement than the latter.
9. Be scrupulously truthful, even if the truth is inconvenient, for it is more inconvenient when you try to conceal it.
10. Do not feel envious of the happiness of those who live in a fool's paradise, for only a fool will think that it is happiness.

Saturday, May 5, 2012

The Daily Solution

Source:  http://fgamedia.org/faculty/rdcormia/COIN83/lesson07.htm


How can I be a more cooperative, respected, and effective leader? 

























How can I best utilize the strengths of those around me to achieve success for all of us?

Open, flat or servant leadership styles are proven options to traditional, self-defeating hierarchical leadership.

Note the differences above in the "Open Leadership" model.

More to come on flat and servant leadership soon!



Friday, May 4, 2012

The Daily Solution

Photo: DBE



Give up your computer (or your TV, or your office, or your plans) for 24 hours.

Notice that the world doesn't end.




Monday, April 30, 2012

The Daily Solution

It's easy to complain. It's easy to find fault.  It's easy to get mired down in the problems of the world, our country, and our state.

Starting today, my readers will enjoy at least one "Daily Solution" from my blog. 

I'd like to begin with one of the most effective solutions I've discovered in the last 40 years:  The Four Agreements.  This is a book by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using your words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

The Four Agreements are posted on my front door, my mirror, my son's mirror, and my husband's computer.  They were posted in my car, but my son wrecked my car on my birthday last year.  I didn't take it personally.

Incorporate The Four Agreements into your life, and you'll be part of The Solution.